Why our girlfriends make us better mums…
After going through a difficult start to this year I was once again reminded how utterly amazing and invaluable my girlfriends are. As they have always done they encouraged me, supported me, loved me, laughed with me and cried with me.
More than a Mum is about helping you rediscover your identity as a woman after becoming a mum and it’s not always an easy path to navigate. But perhaps the number one help in this journey is our girlfriends. Why?.. because they love us just as we are but also are some of the few who can remind us also who we once were – pre parenthood. They remind us of our skills as well as our other qualities that we may have felt have escaped us in the new and unknown land of mummy-hood.
However, it is also easy to neglect these precious friendships when motherhood ensues – particularly those who may not be mothers themselves. But good girlfriends are for life and will see you through many of life’s ups and downs. It’s a bond we’d do well to go out of our way to protect and invest in as the benefits go both ways.
A new survey by Mecca Bingo has revealed the 10 most popular promises that women believe they should make to their girlfriends and we think it’s a pretty good list as a reminder to hold our girlfriends dearly.
The popular bingo site polled its customers to find out what qualities women believe are the most important to maintain a strong friendship.
The top 10 are as follows…
- Make time for each other, even if it’s just a quick phone call
- Always keep secrets, no matter what they are
- Don’t forget birthdays
- Always lend them clothes or shoes if they need a last minute outfit
- Be brutally honest at all times
- Trick them into drinking soft drinks when they’ve had one too many
- Always share all gossip
- Support each other unconditionally
- Be a friend to their other half too
- Agree to grow old disgracefully together
Mecca Bingo then looked into why these friendships are so important, not only emotionally put physically.
Did you know that maintaining a close female friendship releases Oxytocin, a hormone that reduces tension levels and produces a calming effect. The same hormone stimulated during sex, birth and breast feeding!
Women on average speak about 20,000 words a day, 13,000 more than the average man. Having an outlet for these words is vital!
So if you haven’t seen, spoken to or thanked your girlfriends lately, pick up the phone and organise a girls night out, or in if you prefer.
As we always say here at MTAM, when you look after you, it makes you a better parent!