Mother’s Guilt Antidote
Yet again in the press this week a new study confirmed that modern mothers are constantly wracked by guilt. Apparently this time, not earning enough money or being able to give the children the attention they crave top the list. The research was commissioned by babycare company, NUK and Joanne Evans, their Head of marketing asserted that most of the guilt was totally misplaced.
We have blogged on this subject in many guises because we realise it is such a big issue for us mums. Not only that, it holds us back from enjoy being a mum and certainly from rediscovering our identity as a woman – because guilt robs us! It’s interesting that ‘lack of time and money’ are the basis of the top guilt activators. At MTAM we hope we don’t just talk about our issues or even just identify with them, we hope we provide you with encouragement, support and even ideas and solutions to the problems we face as mums and women – or at least some food for thought!
Below are the top thirty guilt triggers released this week from NUK’s study and below that you will see links to some of our blog posts that we hope help to tackle that guilt head-on and kick it to the kerb so that you are free to be the best mum you can be while rediscovering your identity as a woman at the same time. Remember, a happy mum is a happy child!
These are the top thirty triggers:
1. Being too busy to give my children more attention
2. Not being able to afford everything they want
3. Not going on more days out
4. Not having more patience
5. Relying on the TV to keep them entertained
6. Not earning enough money
7. Feeling too tired to give my kids the attention I think they need
8. Returning to work after my maternity leave
9. Working long hours
10. Working late
11. Telling my children off
12. Wanting to have time away from my children every now and then
13. Putting my child into nursery/childminder
14. Not having more money to spend on new clothes / toys for my children
15. Not being able to afford to go away on family holidays
16. Wanting to go to work instead of being a stay-at-home mum
17. Not having enough time or money to provide freshly cooked and healthy meals
18. Arguing/bickering with my partner in front of the children
19. Spending too much time and energy on the household chores
20. Not going on holidays abroad
21. Not going to enough baby / toddler groups
22. Having to leave them with someone else to go to work during the school holidays
23. Not helping more with homework
24. Telling my children white lies to avoid having to answer difficult questions
25. Feeding a baby formula milk instead of breastfeeding
26. Being a stay-at-home mum and not bringing in any money
27. Leaving my baby to cry and self-soothe
28. Sending my children off to childminder / nursery / school when they are under the weather / poorly
29. Checking work emails / taking work-related phone calls when at home with my children
30. Not giving them a sibling
MTAM posts by us and guests which tackle some of these issues:
Search our website for many more relevant blog posts. We also have an abundance of posts on days out and activities to do with your children that are fun, low cost and stimulating for you too – just search our site.
Let’s continue to support and encourage each other as mums and say NO to guilt!
Mums wishing to participate in the Guilt Free Guide to Babycare should visit NUK’s Facebook page to post their stories of guilt or its Twitter page and post with the hashtags #NUK #guiltfree